Weekends with Dolly (Episode 1)
The person you love and the person that loves you can never be the same person.
I can’t remember exactly where I read or heard this quote from. All I know is that, the first time I read it or heard it, it made a big impact on me and that is why I have never been able to forget it. It is such a powerful and deep statement and I can only wonder what the person that made it must have experienced or must have been going through. I decided to ask other people what they felt about this quote and I’m going to give you their answers but before I do that, I’ll tell you what I think about it.
Personally I think that this quote couldn’t be more true. What I understood from this quote that in life, you can only have one person that would be the ‘love of your life’. This person is the person that has touched your heart so much that no one could ever possibly touch your heart like that again. Unfortunately, this person might not feel the same way about you. You probably love the person way more than that person could ever love you. If you are lucky, the person would love you the way you love them and if you are even luckier, you might get to spend the rest of your life with that person. If you don’t, then that means you will meet someone else who would love you so much which could make you the love of that person’s life. This is the difference. It doesn’t mean you won’t fall in love with that person. Au contraire. You probably will and maybe you will be crazy in love with that person but it might never be the same as ‘the love of your life’.
You don’t have to agree with me. Lol.. I mean ‘what do I know?’. It’s just a personal opinion. It’s what came to mind when I heard or read this quote for the first time. I’ll give you all the opinions of other people I asked. Here goes.
Q: What do you think of this statement, ‘the person you love and the person that loves you can never be the same person’?
Morenike:It’s always true for a long time. But sometimes, people that have been married for some what 50 years prove that there is hope. Something to look forward to.
Una: It depends but most times we love wrong. The ones that care, we don’t return it but we love the ones that don’t care. So it’s true.
Aisha: I think it’s true for many people in the world but, there is always the lucky people that are the exception + you can love anyone and anyone can love you. It’ll be more precise if ‘in love with’ is used.
Adaugo: It’s the complete truth but maybe not ‘never’.
Rola: It happens. It happens a lot but I don’t know if it is all the time.
Hawaa: That’s just it. The person would just never be the same cuz someone might love you while you love someone else.
Natasha: They can never be the same because the person that loves you and the person you love can never be the same person that other people see. You love someone for their insides and others might not be able to see who that person really is except you.
Ola: Not always. In fact, the statement is wrong!. I don’t know but people find their true love and stay together forever and the love is reciprocated. That statement is for people who are too busy to notice their real lover and chase after what they think should be ‘the one’.
Rihanna:I don’t think it’s true. How is the author of the quote so sure? The statement is too generalised.
Gadil:Well I think it could be true sometimes but not definitely every time. And the way the world is going, I doubt if love exists. It’s all about the mula.
Abdul: Yes it’s true although it depends on the situation.
Benjamin: I think it makes sense.
Okay so this is it. These are the opinions of the people that I asked and you have to admit that people see it differently. Most people agreed with the statement although they also thought that it depended on the circumstances. Some people disagreed with it completely as they didn’t think that it made sense in any way and others like Natasha took a different approach to the question which a lot of people may agree with. There isn’t a right or wrong answer and all the answers here has made me look at love in a different way and I find it amazing. Thanks for reading and to everyone that gave me answers to this question, a massive thank you.
P.S. I didn’t use real names.
Before you judge me, try hard to love me – MJ