I love me some Toni Braxton. She can do no wrong in my eyes. She is beautiful, sexy, talented and just all round amazing. So, when I found out she had a memoir out, I had to get my hands on it. So, I made a friend get me the book as a birthday present.
When I started to read it, I couldn’t put it down. It was just very open. She spoke about everything and I mean…everything from her bankruptcy to her father’s cheating to her parents divorce to her abortion to her marriage and divorce, raising an autistic child and her battle with Lupus.
I learnt so much from reading this book and I thought I will share some of the lessons.
a.) When an opportunity comes to shine, embrace it – Toni and her sisters had been practicing all their lives to be singers. They practiced almost everyday and eventually they got a chance to meet some people who could sign them. However, when it all came down to it, the record label wanted just Toni. One of the problems was the age range of the sisters because Toni is about ten years older than Tamar, the last born and it was a matter of how to fit such an age range in a group. What kind of songs will they sing? and stuff like that. Toni felt so guilty about signing with the record label for such a long time that she tried to do everything she could to put them on. I could understand why she felt guilty but at the same time, she had to learn to focus on herself because it truly wasn’t her fault. So, if an opportunity comes knocking and you want it, embrace it.
b.) Embrace who you are – Have you heard Toni Braxton’s voice? My girl has a deep alto female voice. In an industry where a lot of soprano singers are celebrated like Mariah Carey, Toni Braxton has made some of the greatest R&B hits with that beautiful, smooth, alto voice that just makes you feel all relaxed inside. I mean, songs like ‘Unbreak my heart’, ‘Breathe Again’, ‘Seven Whole Days’ still remain classics. Everyone has a gift, find yours and improve on it.
c.) Experience is the best teacher – I know this is one of the most cliché sayings ever but it is the truth. Toni went through a whole lot in her life. A whole lot. She went through bankruptcy TWICE… and a whole bunch of other stuff. Was she frustrated at the time? YES! but she found a way to get through it and carry on with her life. She has Lupus and yet she still slays on the red carpet. She has managed to raise her autistic son up so well that he is so developed for his age because of her.
Life can be lemons and sometimes it can be a pile of shit too. However, we cry about it and we move on from it. If there is anything I have learned from this book, it is exactly that.
Thanks for sharing with us Toni. You remain a legend.
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