I am a woman. I love being a woman. I have always enjoyed being a woman. I love the idea of carrying a life inside me. I love the womanly instincts that I bear. I love my curves. I love how vulnerable I can be. I would not trade being a woman for anything else in the world. However, in this crazy world we live in and the ignorance that is around us, being a woman can be a struggle.
When I was growing up, I used to watch a lot of Nigerian films and one thing I noticed was the constant domestic abuse. Men would hit women at will, for provoking them and it started to seem normal to me. I never saw my father hit my mother – Thank God – but I always just thought that it was something he could get away with, should he decide to do so. It’s such an ignorant way of thinking but from watching all this, I thought it was a norm.
I remember seeing in these films how men would want to sleep with women that want to move forward in their life. A lecturer would call a student into his office and threaten to fail her if she does not sleep with him. I am in uni now and I am just 19 and I cannot begin to imagine the horror of being told by a dirty old man that I have to sleep with him to move ahead. This same thing would happen in the workplace. Unfortunately, these scenarios don’t just happen in films, they happen in real life.
I am Nigerian and I love my motherland so much but I have to tell you that being a female there can be extremely difficult. I remember going to the market with my mother, my sister, my brother and my sister and I would be getting dragged and called at by men. I hate going to the market for that very reason. There is no peace of mind.
Fortunately, I have grown up and I have seen that domestic abuse is never okay. Touching women for your own amusement is not okay and threatening to hold a woman back if she doesn’t satisfy your desires is the most disgusting thing I have ever heard.
A hashtag was started earlier today on Twitter that brought to the light the struggles that Nigerian women face back home. I believe that this is a movement and I’ll post some of the tweets that was posted.
I am glad that light is being shed on this because we have grown up in this society that everyone believes that it is normal to be treated this way. It is not normal and I am glad that we are speaking out, FINALLY.