When I become a mother, one thing I would let my children know from the moment they are born is that, I am not perfect. I have made mistakes – lots of them and every now and then, I still tend to make poor decisions. That way, they know that it is okay and it is alright and that making mistakes don’t make you a bad person – it only means that you are human.
There are people in my life that I have idolised and admired and I have admired some of them because they seemed perfect. They seemed like they have never made any mistakes and they seemed like they would be disappointed in me if they find out that I have made some poor decisions. However, I realised later that they themselves, have made some really terrible mistakes and I am disappointed – not because they made mistakes but because they seemed perfect in my eyes.
I think one reason I greatly admire Maya Angelou is because she is a woman who made so many mistakes earlier in her life and she has never been secretive about that. When she was just 16 years old, she got pregnant with her first child. Maya Angelou was like everyone’s grandma and she was a very wise woman. I still look up to her and sometimes I just go on youtube to listen to her speak. Knowing that she made some mistakes in her youth made me feel connected to her because I know that she was not just speaking from a place of judgement but from a place of experience. I know that she was not preaching on something she did not know and I know that if I made a mistake, she won’t have judged me. She would have told me that my mistake does not define me but where I go from there.
People tend to disappoint and that’s why the only person we can ever really idolise is God because he is perfect and makes no mistakes. I admire people that don’t have to hide the fact that they have made mistakes but show that you can learn from it.
Anyway, my whole point of this is that it is okay – Very okay – to make mistakes. We live and we learn. As humans, it is very easy to judge other people’s mistakes. I won’t act like I don’t do it sometimes. However, let us remember that we have done some things and said some things that we are not proud of and we should ‘not judge someone because they sin differently from us.’