Dating a man with kids
So, I just finished talking to a friend of mine who told me a very interesting story. She told me about a friend of hers who met a dude and he seemed amazing. He was such a nice guy and she was so happy that she told everyone about him. After a while, she couldn’t reach him anymore. He started to act real funny and she did not understand why he was acting that way.
After a couple of months, he messaged her and told her that the reason why he was acting strange was because he had a one-year old son. I screamed. Now, this guy is still trying to get with her even after keeping this hugeeeee secret away from her.
See, this is the kind of stuff that I don’t like. Why do guys lie like this? Now, he keeps on sending pictures of his kid to her and my question is, for what?
Listen, in this day and age it is not strange to meet single mothers and fathers. However, you should let your potential partner know these things. Personally speaking, I do not want to date a guy with kids especially a guy that has kids under the age of 8. Now, these are my reasons.
Dating a guy that has children comes with a lot of responsibilities especially when the kids are young. For one, you are taking on a responsibility to be a step-parent to that kid. There is nothing wrong with that but you have to be ready to take on that responsibility and I do not believe I am ready for that. Secondly, you have to deal with the child’s mother. There are a lot of good baby mamas in the world but there are some nasty ones as well. I have watched way too many reality shows to see that if you are going to date a guy with kids, you will have to deal with that. Therefore, you have to be prepared for that as well.
Now, the last thing I want is to be put in a situation that I did not anticipate. If a guy wants to date me and he has kids, be honest about it. Do not lie. Not only will you be a complete asshole for lying but it also goes to show how selfish you are as a human being. Your child should come first and if you are ashamed to tell a potential partner about this huge part of your life, how am I ever supposed to believe anything that comes out of your mouth?
It is so disappointing to hear cases like this these days because a lot of women are just looking for the right guy. So, it sucks that when they think that they have found the right guy, he pulls a fast one on them.
Just tell the truth. If I meet a guy that has kids and he is honest about it and I still decide to date him, then our relationship has started on a great foundation. Why would you allow the relationship to go a certain distance before you tell the truth? You want someone to be able to date you for every part of you not just for the parts you wish to show.
This is why we have to keep our eyes open and just keep on praying because these things keep on happening everyday.