Dolly Writes

Journey of a growing woman

Month: May, 2017

Google Doodles: The work of Zaha Hadid

I believe that you can never know too much. Knowledge is power and I appreciate and I love to read and watch out for any opportunity to learn about anything and everything. It is for this reason that I love Google Doodles. Google Doodles are the animations that Google displays on their homepage. Almost everyday, there is always a google doodle that celebrates something or someone and I especially loved today’s doodle.

Today, Google celebrates the work of Zaha Hadid, an architectural wizard who basically was a pioneer in modern architecture. I am not really much of an architectural follower( I can’t think of a better word right now). I can’t tell you anything about it and you will not see me buying a copy of Architectural digest. However, I appreciate the art of it. I love looking at buildings that are just art and I appreciate the process that goes into it all.

So, I was interested to see the work of this amazing woman and I have to tell you that her work is spectacular. Her buildings are some of the most amazing things I have ever seen. Her mind was so creative and so technical and so beautiful. I was just in awe of the stuff that I saw and I wished I had known about her sooner and I appreciate Google for giving me an opportunity to know about this architectural genius.

I will leave some photos of her buildings below so that you guys can feast your eyes on the magic that is Zaha Hadid.


Al Wakrah Stadium, Qatar



Changsha Meixihu International Cultural Centre, China



Sleuk Rith Institute, Cambodia (2018)



520 West 28th Street, New York (2017)



New Beijing Airport at Daxing (2018)



Central Bank of Iraq, Baghdad (TBC)



Eleftheria Square, Nicosia, Cyprus (TBC)



Esfera City Centre, Monterry, Mexico (2018)



Riverside Museum, Glasgow (2011)



King Abdullah Petroleum Centre, Riyadh, Saudi Arabia (2016)



Grand Theatre de Rabat, Morocco (TBC)



So amazing!

Photos: The Telegraph


I want a dog

So, about a week ago, I watched A Dog’s Purpose and  I can tell you that I cried like 4 different times during the movie. That movie had me all in my feelings and it re-ignited this feeling that I have always wanted to get a dog.

I do not like a lot of animals. I mean I think that there are some really cute animals but I prefer to admire them from afar. However, I have always liked dogs. Not the really big ones; I get scared of those ones but I like the small ones that I can carry and pet and I can take like a medium-sized dog as well.

My mum doesn’t really like animals so, getting a dog when we were kids was not even a conversation. Now, that I’m older and looking to get a job and own my own place, one of the things that I want is a dog. I recognise that dogs need to be well-taken care of and so I want to be in a good enough place to get one.

I just feel like dogs were truly made to be man’s animal companion and I cannot wait for the day that I get my very own furry baby. 🙂

What if we knew the future?

I think that one of the best things in life is that you don’t know what is going to happen. I also think that one of the scariest things in life is that you don’t know what is going to happen.

If we knew what will happen to us tomorrow or a year from now, we would walk towards it or steer away from it depending on what it is. However, what then is the point? If we knew the future, then it makes life boring.

Not knowing the future makes all the good things that come along the way all the more amazing. The little surprises that come along remain that and makes life more interesting.

I am currently writing this movie script and it is something that I never thought I will do. I mean, when I was younger and a little more confident in my writing, I always thought of writing a book. Then, I grew older, criticised myself more and became more afraid.

Now, my confidence is rising once more and all these ideas are beginning to pop in my head and even though, it is still a scary road to go down, I am just doing my best to enjoy it. I mean, who knows what will come out of it but at this very moment though, I feel like it is what I’m meant to be doing.

Many things have happened to me that I never thought will happen – some good, some bad – but at least, life stays interesting.

Just wanted to drop my thoughts this evening. Let me know what you think.

I will always love you Maya

So, today 28th May, 2017 is the 3rd anniversary of the death of one of the most iconic women to have ever graced this earth. Even though, she never knew me and I never met her, I felt like I knew her. I always felt like I could relate to her and whenever I watched her, it always felt like she was talking to me.

Maya Angelou wasn’t perfect and she never claimed to be. However, whenever she went through trials and tribulations in her life, she learnt from it and she always passed the knowledge on. I would have loved to sit at her feet and just allow all her wisdom permeate through my head, my heart, my being.

She inspired me.

She still does. I feel blessed to have been on this earth when she was here; to have shared the same planet with such a wonderful human being.

I remember her today. I remember her for the love, the wisdom and the energy that she passed. I remember her for the PHENOMENAL woman that she was and I thank her for reminding me that even when this world is against me, I will still rise.

Rest on Dr. Angelou.

Buttered Popcorn

It’s Saturday and so I thought I’d leave a light-hearted post.

Watch some Netflix…and maybe grab some buttered popcorn. 😉

I had a profound thought on a trip to Brighton

On a bus ride to Brighton, I had a very profound thought. Is it possible that the baristas at Starbucks intentionally spell our names wrong? I mean, is is part of the Starbucks culture? I ask this because I don’t understand how you can possibly spell ‘Dolly’ wrong. Lol.

Even when you spell your name to them, they give you your cup with something different. I actually find it very hilarious and if in fact, this is part of their culture and their marketing strategy, I think it is brilliant and really funny.

Sometimes, you just don’t want to forgive…


When I was growing up, one of the things we recited at home, at school or at the church was The Lord’s Prayer. One of the lines that always stood out to me was: And forgive us our trespasses even as we forgive those who trespass against us. It’s a pretty straightforward verse. It emphasises on the importance of forgiving those that wrong you because we sin all the time and we would love for God to forgive us when we sin. I never had a problem with this growing up.

In fact, I considered myself to be a very forgiving human being. If someone stole my pencil, I would forgive. If someone insulted me, I would forgive. The truth is, no one had ever really wronged me to the point where I thought I couldn’t forgive. Even though I was molested which was a terrible injustice in itself, I was too young to really process it and by the time I got to a point where I could, I was more mad at myself. I held a little resentment towards the adults around me as I felt that they should have known but as I have grown older, I realise that no one is perfect and I can’t blame them for not knowing. I mean, how could they have known? Anyway, point is, even with all of this, I hadn’t really felt an almost unforgiving hurt but that was about to change.

When I was 18, my boyfriend slept with my friend. The night I found out, I felt an indescribable hurt that I have never felt in my life. That night was a turning point for me. That night changed me. Even though, I am over it now, I still tear up writing this because I remember how my whole world came crashing before me in a split second. It was definitely one of the worst nights of my life.

So, here I was…hurt out of my mind and now being in a situation where I had to forgive. So, I know a lot of people say that you should be mad at the guy and not the girl, and those people are right. However, for me, all I could see was my love and my friend.

At that moment in time, even though he was the one who messed up, I knew that it would be easier for me to forgive him before I ever forgave her. This was my friend. I cared for her. I loved her. I was always going to be there for her no matter what. I had told her things about me; things about my relationship; and for her to do me like that, I couldn’t imagine ever speaking to her again IN LIFE.

Even though that moment should have been the moment that I ended things with my boyfriend, I didn’t. I believed him when he told me it was a mistake and I wanted to believe that we will get past it. So, I was ready to put all the blame on her even though, she didn’t deserve all of it.

It took me a while to forgive her. Actually, it took me a long time. Longer than I thought it will take. For a long time, I never really got a real apology from her. There were times when she will apologise to me and I will believe that she was being sincere. Then, I will see her throwing subs at me on Twitter or people will come to me telling me stuff that she had said about me. So, I had to learn to forgive her, knowing that I might never ever get that apology from her.

I never wanted to be friends with her ever again but I wanted to get to a place where I could be in the same room with her or even say ‘hi’ without cursing her under my breath. There were times when I genuinely thought I had forgiven her and then, I catch myself saying or thinking something mean about her and that was not the kind of person I wanted to be. When I became editor of my university’s news bulletin, I knew that I had to work with her and I was dreading it because I didn’t want to have to be around her. Then, I spoke to myself and said: Self, there are times when you will have to work with people that you do not like or may not like you, what are you going to do then?

So, I made it a conscious decision every time we sat down to write a script together or consult with each other, that I will put personal feelings aside and do what I am supposed to. Honestly, I hadn’t forgiven her yet but it was a step in the right direction. It wasn’t until two years after the incident that I realised that I had forgiven her truly and I wished her the very best. She sent me a message a couple of months after my realisation asking me to forgive her about what happened and for the first time, I felt a real genuine apology. I finally felt like I got closure.

You know, when people preach forgiveness, it is one of those things that is easier said than done. How do you let go of the hurt that someone has caused you? I was so broken-hearted not just by a guy that I loved but also by a friend that I genuinely cared about. I was not ready to forgive. I tried to. I honestly did try but I was too hurt. As time passed, I really wanted to get over it. I just wanted to move on from the hurt. I wanted to forgive her not for her, but for myself. I could not let someone hold that power over me. So, I tried and I tried and it took me a while but I eventually did it and I feel so much better about it. Holding on to that pain a lot of times does you more harm than good. No one is asking you to forget. I mean, personally speaking, I don’t forget, not because it hurts me but just because it taught me to be more cautious and to have a tighter circle of friends. However, even when you do not want to forgive, you just have to do for yourself. It will be hard but it is worth it.


You know, I can honestly say that the UK has been like a second home to me. I came here when I was 15 years old to begin my higher education. In the last six years, I have lived in about 5 towns/cities, visited over 10 towns/cities and I have passed through countless whether via tube, train, bus or car.

When you live in a country like this, it is not very hard to travel and due to the ability to travel so easily, you find yourself going to different places. I’m in London right now and it is about 10.06 pm. If my friends called me to come down to Milton Keynes right now and I was feeling really spontaneous, I could be there in the next 3 hours. This is one of the reasons why I have loved being here. The ease of being able to travel to see my friends and enjoy life has been one of my highlights.

Early yesterday morning, when I woke up to find out that Manchester had been attacked, my heart shifted. To hear that it happened at Ariana Grande’s concert in Manchester just really made me feel terrible. Just a couple of weeks ago, I was in Birmingham at Bruno Mars’ concert. Everyone that knows me knows how much I love Bruno Mars and I almost  wasn’t going to go for the concert because I didn’t have enough money but I felt like I had to be there. So, as soon as I got some money, I was there. So, I know that the people that went for this concert were only going to have some fun and party with their favourite artist.

It sucks that we can’t go anywhere and feel safe anymore. We hear of terrorist attacks happening in churches, nightclubs, concerts, on the roads, in schools and it just feels like nowhere is safe anymore.

But what can we do?

As one person, all I can do is pray for peace. Honestly, I don’t mean to be a cynic but these days, I just feel like this world is falling apart and there is no helping it and there are days when I am losing hope. However, I won’t let them get to me and so,  I continue to pray for those that have lost their loved ones or have been injured in this senseless act and I pray for peace in their lives. I cannot even imagine the pain they feel and all I can pray for is peace. I know that Ariana must hurt so bad; she might feel like it’s her fault. It’s not her fault though. The people that should be blamed are the ones causing all this hurt and pain. It’s unfortunate that there are people that believe that any good can come out of hurting other people.

We can’t let them win though. We can’t stop living our lives because of them. They don’t get to win. What we can do is to live everyday to the fullest and love everyone and be kind to everyone.

As, someone that has lived here for as long as I have, it definitely hits close to home. I could feel the sadness in the air and it’s just sad. So, I pray for Manchester today and the UK as a whole and I pray for peace for us all.

What is your essence?

When I went to church on Sunday, there was this amazing pastor who came to preach. His name is Bishop Mark Chironna and he preached on something that has really stayed with me since then.

He spoke about the essence of our beings. He spoke about knowing who we are to the core of our souls. This world is so fast-paced. Things move very quickly and times change really fast and we are always trying to keep up that we don’t really sit down to know who we are. He mentioned something interesting. He said, if you meet someone and you ask them ‘Who are you?’, you hear replies like ‘ I’m a computer engineer’ or ‘I’m a lawyer’

My love, that’s not who are. That is what you do. Who are you?

When I got home, I started to research this thing called ‘essence’. How do I know what my essence is? Based on my research, I found out that everyone has a unique essence. It is not your story. It is not your experience or what you have been through. It is who you would have been anyway without any of those external influences; regardless of who raised you. It is the vibration you give off.

So, I decided to ask the one person who carried me and also knew me before I became aware of myself. My mother.

I sent her a message basically asking her who I was. Not my story or experiences. Just my essence. The core of my soul. And this is what she told me.

I think what was striking about you was your calmness. You exhibited a calm spirit and you still do. No matter what is going on around you, even when your eyes look troubled, your outlook is always calm which to me, shows someone who doesn’t give out her state of mind. A calmness that shows all will be well no matter what.  What I saw when I look at you is PEACE.

She also continued by saying:

You’ll notice that each time I push you hard and I noticed you didn’t do what I told you to do, I just leave you, knowing that you have a way of doing your own thing.

Hearing that made me feel so good in my spirit. It almost made sense to me on the way I handle things and the way I have always handled things. It gave me an outlook on how to continue on with life moving forward.

I think it is important to know who you are to the very core of your being. So, I want to encourage you guys to think really deeply about this one. What is your essence? Who would you have been regardless of your story or your experiences? If you have difficulty figuring it out, speak to someone who knows you. I really want to hear what you have to say.

I have so much love for you all.