I remember the first time I got a social media account. I believe I was 13 years old and in secondary school. I was so excited. While others had been joining MySpace and Facebook in its beginning stages, I never did because I did not want to fake my age – goodie two shoes. Yahoo Messenger was my first glimpse into the world of communicating with friends and strangers over the internet. I used to talk to people from different chat rooms and sometimes with friends but Hi5 seemed so much better. I could meet people as well as pimp my profile and check out my friend’s profiles and all of that. It was all fun. Sometimes, I still log into my profile just to see how things were. It’s like a time machine that takes me back in time to an old version of me.
Then as time went on, social media became this really huge thing that people were so addicted to and before you know it, I was a part of the movement. I joined Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and eventually Tumblr. Each of these apps have a component that I love. Facebook is great for me because it is easier to find people that I have lost touch with. There is a reason why till this day, when someone is not sure of a friend’s birthday, they check their Facebook. It has also helped with my blog as well because I have been able to reach people through my blog’s Facebook page.
Then there is twitter which is probably one of my favourite social media apps ever. I get to talk about whatever I want and to also see the way other people think. Twitter is truly undefeated. You see what some shit on there that makes you laugh, cry, angry, sad and a lot of times confused. As a lover of words and thoughts and feelings, twitter gives me all of that and more.
I just love Tumblr for the pictures an d the deep quotes. Lol. I have a love/hate relationship going on with Instagram. I like gossip too much..Lol, so I am always looking to sip some tea on blogs like Fameolous, The Shaderoom and others. I also love to share pictures and see what my friends are sharing as well.
However, Instagram has definitely contributed to some of my insecurities that I have had before or still have sometimes. Instagram can make you wish you had someone else’s life. I had to learn that things aren’t always what they seem. Instagram, more than any other social media app, in my opinion, has definitely contributed to the pressure a lot of people feel.
I was telling a couple of my friends some time ago that I might unfollow ‘Bella Naija Weddings’ just because as much as I enjoy looking at the pictures of beautiful brides, it makes me feel insecure sometimes or wanting marriage quickly. This is insane because while I do want to get married, I’m not ready for it right now and I know that. I want to get myself established more than anything before I take that leap but for a couple of minutes, when I look at that page sometimes, it makes me feel a certain kind of way. It reminds me of the societal pressures to get a man and get married and all that jazz.
Anyway, I can’t say that I’ll be staying away from social media anytime soon. Social media has also been a good tool for me especially with this blog and it really keeps me updated. However, I’ll keep on building myself and being the best person I can be. That’s all I can really do.