Dolly Writes

Journey of a growing woman

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Stress

So, for the past couple of days, I have been feeling really stressed. You know, I had an accident last November (I am much better now, Thank God) and I had to get lawyers to help with the compensation. Since then, the case has just been longer than I anticipated and now that it is coming down to the wire, it has just become a whole lot more stressful.

Even thinking about it makes me tired. I don’t have to go to court or anything but going back and forth between the lawyers and my mum has just been too much for me. Anyway, apart from praying, I decided to look for something that would make me feel a bit better and I came across this quote by Steve Maraboli that shifted my perspective a little bit and I thought I’d share it with you guys.

I promise you nothing is as chaotic as it seems. Nothing is worth diminishing your health. Nothing is worth poisoning yourself into stress, anxiety, and fear.

So, this helped me feel a little better because truly there is so much more to life than for me to sit here stressing over this daily. If you are going through a stressful time, I hope this changes your perspective on it and I am praying for you.

Love,

Dolly xx

 

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Love is…

My heart has been so heavy these last couple of days because there is so much hate going on in the world today. I feel so sad because it should not be that way. Jesus did not come all the way to die for every single one of us for us to keep on hating other people.

I mean, do you get how precious that is? Do you understand the depth of love that God has for us? Do you know what it means that Jesus died for you and for me all those centuries ago before we were even born? And then, there are people filled with so much hateeeee!

God is Love! He is love personified. He is the embodiment of love. Jesus said in Mark 12:30-31(NIV):

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: ‘Love your neighbour as yourself’. There is no commandment greater than these.

So, what are we doing people? Why are we so consumed with hate? Why even burn all that energy hating someone? You are not doing anyone but yourself.

Please, I plead, let us try to be kind to everyone and love everyone the way that Christ has loved us. I am just so tired and my heart bleeds to see so much hate going on in the world.

I love each and everyone of you from the bottom of my heart. Please, spread the love to those around you. Keep on passing the love on. This world needs love and not hate.

I saw an amazing video on Youtube of people between the ages of 0-100 (105, technically) describe what love is and I lost it because it is so beautiful. There is a woman that said that ‘Love is a form of God’ and that just completely got me. I hope this touches you as much as it did me.

 

No one is born hating another person because of the colour of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.

– Nelson Mandela

Love is Finite! Let us pass the love on!

Quote of the day: by L.M. Montgomery

Happy New Month people!!!

Sorry, I know I’m like a day late in saying that but I was a bit occupied yesterday. I saw this wonderful quote and I thought to share it with you guys because it encourages us to know that every day, we have the chance to start anew and make better choices. While, it  might seem crazy sometimes to do because the choices you made yesterday can affect your today; every day presents another chance to make better choices than we did the day before. We are not perfect; we are bound to make mistakes but it sure feels good to know that we have new chances to right our wrongs.

Isn’t it nice to know that tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it yet?

Have a lovely month, my darlings. ❤

Quote of the day: by C. Joybell C.

So, I found this awesome quote today that encourages us to always know our value and our worth. It reminds us to be confident in ourselves and our amazingness. A lot of times, I go through moments where I lose confidence in who I am as a person because of what others might think or because I lose sight of the greatness that I am and I’m sure there are other people who feel the same way every now and again.

Hope this quote by C. Joybell C. be printed in our hearts so that we never forget who we are.

You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don’t know it, all of that doesn’t even matter. Every second you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticise yourself; is a second of a life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It’s not like you have forever, so don’t waste any of your seconds, don’t throw even one of your moments away.

 

Spoken Word: The Origin Story

I am a huge fan of spoken word poetry. I mean, I wish I was the type of person that knew how to do that. I admire it a lot because you are not just reading the words but you get to see it performed and for a moment, you are taking a journey into the world of the poet and the story and it is just so phenomenal to me.

One of my favourite spoken word poets in Sarah Kay. I think she is awesome and I love how she puts words together. I also love the poems that she does with her friend Philip Kaye. Both of them are fire together and the poem that I am about to share shows that maybe their meeting was pre-ordained.

I am a huge believer in destiny. I believe that God puts certain people in our life for a reason. Some people are just your soul mates and soul mates doesn’t only work in the context of romance; it could also be friendship or mentorship. Either way, I feel like it is one of life’s little miracles – the ability to meet someone who you connect with on a deeper level.

Anyway, this poem really got me to understand Sarah & Phil more. The way they met and the little coincidences in their lives just makes me believe all the more in fate and destiny.

Please, enjoy and let me know your thoughts.

Quote of the day: by Dr. Seuss

These quotes by Dr. Seuss encourages us to keep being who we are. Don’t feel the need to change for nobody. Those that love you will accept you for all that you are. Hope these quotes inspire you today and everyday.

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind

 

Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You

 

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To the beautiful Black Women – A poem by Vernon J. Davis Jnr.

My beautiful black women,

Never forget how beautiful and strong you are. Never let anyone try to dim your shine. You are spectacular and you are amazing and you are wonderfully and beautifully made by God. Always remember this each and every day.

I came across this amazing poem by Vernon J. Davis Jnr. It celebrates who we are and it honours us. I hope as you read it, it makes you feel special and lovely and amazing in every way.

BEAUTIFUL BLACK WOMEN – by VERNON J. DAVIS JR.

Beautiful Black Woman, your beauty is surpassed

                                         by none

 

Beautiful Black Woman, your sensuous

splendour is like the shining sun your 

wondrous ways come from your soul

which no one man may hope to control

 

Beautiful Black Woman, you are the guiding

                        hope of our people

 

Beautiful Black woman, your mind maintains 

                    your glorious power

 

Beautiful Black Woman, your spirit is 

like a shining church tower which points the 

way to heaven  above and which 

seeks to find true love

 

Beautiful Black Woman, you are the guiding 

                       hope of our people

 

Beautiful Black Woman, your time is like a 

                  precious commodity

 

Beautiful Black Woman, your ebony will is 

strong and free so take your precious time 

and your determined will and use them both to

emphasize what you really feel

 

Beautiful Black Woman, you are the guiding hope 

                                of our people

 

Beautiful Black Woman, in you lies our future!

 

 

Photo: Pinterest

Poem Link: http://www.tributetoblackwomen.com/poems/beautiful_blackwoman.htm

 

For the Black Goddesses – Don’t Let Anyone Steal Your Magic

When Solange’s A Seat At the Table came out last year, I was so excited. Apart from the fact that I love Solange as a person and as an artist, this album was such a magical piece of art and she touched on so many things pertaining to black women.

On one of her interludes, I Got so Much Magic, You Can Have it, she does a short a cappella with her friends Kelly Rowland and Nia Andrews that just basically states that ‘don’t let anybody steal your magic’ and the part I like best is at the end where they confidently state ‘I got so much ya’ll’ 

The interlude really touched me and I just wanted to use it to remind us that we have so much magic and we should be proud of it and not let anyone make us feel like we are less deserving or treat us less than we deserve.

My beautiful black Queens, always remember that you are special and wonderfully made by God. Hope this touches you as much as it did me.

 

Photo: Tim Okamura

For the Black Beauties – Spoken word poetry by Joshua Bennet

Hi beautiful people,

This week I am celebrating black women all over the world because I feel like a lot of the time this world puts us down and I want to use this time to lift us up because we deserve it. Most of the time, our black men do not show us love but it’s not all black men. It’s not like we need validation from anyone other than God but it is always nice to hear. Today, I am sharing a spoken word poem by an amazing man by the name of Joshua Bennet and the name of the poem is, 10 Things I want to say to a Black Woman. I have actually shared it on this blog years ago but I don’t think the video is available anymore but I found a captioned one on Youtube.

The first time I heard this poem, I just smiled. It completely lifted me up and I feel like it is something that all black women need to hear.

Always remember my beauties that we are stars. We are magical, we are Queens and we are magnificent. Always tell yourself that and I love you all from the bottom of my heart.

Hope you enjoy the poem. It is captioned so you can read along. If it isn’t on, just turn the CC button on the video on. Enjoy!

 

 

Photo: Pinterest

For the Black Queens – Black Girl Magic

So, yesterday, I decided to use this entire week to celebrate black women through poetry, art and even music. I think it is important for us to be reminded that we are worth celebrating and we are QUEENS. No matter what this world throws at us, we will still rise.

So. that brings me to the poem that I am going to share today. Maya Angelou’s Still I Rise is a widely known poem that celebrates us, black women and it is one of my personal favourites. As you read this poem, my beautiful black queens, remember how amazing and special and beautiful you are. God bless you, my darlings.

 

STILL I RISE

You may write me down in history

With your bitter, twisted lies,

You may tread me in the very dirt

But still, like dust, I’ll rise.

 

Does my sassiness upset you?

Why are you beset with gloom?

‘Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells 

Pumping in my living room.

 

Just like moons and like suns,

With the certainty of tides,

Just like hopes springing high,

Still I’ll rise.

 

Do you want to see me broken?

Bowed head and lowered eyes?

Shoulders falling down like teardrops.

Weakened by my soulful cries.

 

Does my haughtiness offend you?

Don’t you take it awful hard

‘Cause I laugh like I’ve got gold mines

Diggin’ in my own back yard.

 

You may shoot me with your words,

You may cut me with your eyes,

You may kill me with your hatefulness,

But still, like air, I’ll rise.

 

Does my sexiness upset you?

Does it come as a surprise

That I dance like I’ve got diamonds

At the meeting of my thighs?

 

Out of the huts of history’s shame

I rise

Up from a past that’s rooted in pain

I rise

I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide,

Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.

Leaving behind nights of terror and fear

I rise

Into daybreak that’s wondrously clear

I rise

Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,

I am the dream and the hope of the slave.

I rise

I rise

I rise.

 

Poem: Maya Angelou

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