I celebrated women’s day in the strangest place

So, today started off a little weird. I was slightly irritated by something that had gone on in my personal life but eventually, I just let it go. However, before I could let it go, I spent half of the day trying to analyse it and understand it because I am an analytical person when it comes to people and feelings. I like to understand why people do the things they do or say the things they say and I also analyse my thoughts and behaviour as a way of processing my feelings.

Anyway, I had gone for my CDS today and after chatting with Ayo for over an hour, we decided to leave that place and go home – well, he went to the gym and I started my journey home.

So, I had just gotten to 7UP bus stop and was looking for a keke Napep or keke Maruwa – which is basically a tricycle – that could take me to Magodo gate. As I looked up, I saw three of them waiting to carry passengers  and in one of them, a woman was calling out so she could pick passengers. As soon as I saw her, I already knew that I was going to enter her keke. She called out to me and came to hold my hand to enter her keke and then she said out some words of prayer and encouragement to me. Then, she told the other male keke drivers in Yoruba, ‘This is what makes women different from men..” and it only made everyone giggle.

I have never seen a woman drive a keke. I am sure that there are women that do but this was my first time seeing one and I was in such awe of her. She was just so sweet and in control and powerful. I was just smiling from the moment the ride started till the end. As I sat there, I felt like my women’s day had been made. I felt like, this is exactly what it is all about – women understanding their strength and their power and the fact that we can do anything we want to do.

As a champion for women as I am, I felt God was giving me a gift today. It was a wonderful one and it was just lovely to see a woman just taking control of her life and not allowing anything stand in her way. That was the celebration that I needed.

Happy International Women’s Day to my women all over the world. We are beautiful, strong and powerful. I had a conversation with a friend of mine, KC a few days ago. I told him that women are powerful creatures and he said: “Omo, I tell you, you are right. Women are powerful. Anybody wey tell me say women no powerful never jam.” Lol.

I just want to encourage women out there to always stay beautiful and remember that you have so much strength and power in you just waiting to be unleashed. Carry yourself like a Queen because that is who you are. You don’t need anyone to tell you how awesome you are, you just need to believe that you are.

Happy International Women’s Day. I love you. 🙂

Breast Cancer Awareness Month

Hey beautiful people,

How are you all doing? I hope you have been doing okay. So, I am so sorry that I haven’t posted my 2 Samuel post…I have finished it but I have been so lazy ( please, pray for the strength of  God on my life) however, I am planning to post it either tomorrow or on Sunday.

Anyway, I wanted to use this platform to talk about something that affects the lives of women all over – Breast Cancer. While it affects men as well, it generally affects women more. According to cancer.org, “Breast cancer is about 100 times less common among men than among women. For men, the lifetime risk of getting breast cancer is about 1 in 1,000.”

Breast cancer is a horrible disease that happens to women and it is something that a lot of brave people have to fight through every single day. I do not know anyone personally that has gone through breast cancer but I know that it can happen to anyone. Therefore, it is very important that we know how to self examine ourselves to see if there is anything wrong because early detection can save lives.

I saw a photo on Twitter by Dr. Ben Rusani, that shows how we can check our breasts. Take a look below:

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Please, make sure you take a minute of your day to check your breasts and determine if everything is okay. It could save your life.

I also want to take this moment to salute all the brave people that are fighting this horrible disease each and everyday and those have survived it, you are amazing and wonderful and I thank God for you.

And to the beautiful ones that we have lost to it, continue to rest in the bosom of our Lord and I pray for peace and comfort for your family always.

Love,

Dolly.

 

Photo: Handmade By Heroes

For the women…

I saw this post on Instagram today and I wanted to share it with you guys, especially the women. I think a lot of us have felt insecure at some point in our lives or feel it every now and then but this post celebrates us for who we are and I hope you like it.

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This post is for the busty girls who have difficulty finding bras their size

The first time I tried on a bra was in 2007. I was 11 years old and my family and I were on vacation in the U.S. We were staying in my uncle’s big ass house in Dallas and we were having a really nice time. So, my siblings, my mum and I were at a clothing store and we passed by racks and racks of underwear. Normally, I would not really care as much about it but at this moment, I really wanted to wear a bra.

I was already in boarding school at the time and so, I lived with a whole bunch of girls in different classes and of different ages. Looking back now, 11 was probably the right time to start wearing a bra but going through puberty and seeing a lot of girls wear bras, I always thought I was behind. So, when we saw a bra that could fit me perfectly, I told my mum that I really wanted to buy it and I honestly thought she would say ‘no’ but she agreed. So, we bought it and when we got home, I tried it on and it fit perfectly and I felt happy that I had finally gotten to this stage of my life. The size of that bra was a 32A.

After this time, every summer my bra size increased which I thought was understandable because I was at a transitional time in my life obviously and so, I was growing and it was normal that my breasts will grow as well but never in my wildest dreams did I ever think that I will be what you refer to as a busty girl.  Continue reading “This post is for the busty girls who have difficulty finding bras their size”

Tampons vs Pads: A Bloody War

Excuse the title…Lol..I thought it was funny

So, lets talk about periods. Yes, that monthly visitor that we never like to see but have to, anyway. Honestly, I believe for most women, the only reason why we hope to see our periods is just to confirm that we are not pregnant.

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Lol. Anyway, its the way God planned it so it is the way it has to be.

So, I first had my period when I was just about to turn 11 years old and I was in secondary school – boarding school – at the time. As at then, the only thing I knew about in terms of sanitary instruments was pads. I had never heard of tampons before in my life. I, especially knew about the pads because there were these ‘Always’ ads that I used to see back home in Nigeria. They were so entertaining. Lol. Honestly, some of the best ads are the tampons and pads ads.

Anyway, for the first year of my period, I only knew about pads. That all changed one Saturday afternoon. So, I was back home for the holidays and my mum wanted to take my siblings and I swimming. However, that day, I got my period and I was upset because I so badly wanted to swim. So, my mum said that there was a way I could. She told me she would give me a tampon. I was like ‘C’est Quoi? What is that? She took me to her room and showed me this small item that would supposedly have to go up my vagina. It sounded really uncomfortable. I was young and I had never even heard of this thing until that day so, my mum had to put it on for me.

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First of all, it was painful. Secondly, just as I thought it was uncomfortable. The concept of being able to wear it and swim seemed nice but honestly it made me feel very weird. Anyway, I hated it so much that I wanted it off but I did not want to tell my mum because I did not want to upset her with whining so, I did the next best thing, which was to hope that rain fell so we would not have to swim. Well, God must have had some pity on me because that rain fell and it fell good. Lol. It started to fall when we got to the pool so we had to go back. As soon as I went home, I took it off and wore my very comfortable pad.

This was about 8 years ago so a lot has obviously changed with me as a woman. I am more comfortable in my femininity than I was back then. So, the things I never thought would change about me has changed. For one, I love tampons now. The truth is when my mum first introduced me to tampons, I was used to something else which was pads and I do not usually like to break out of the norm at first, especially when it is not my idea. I finally explored tampons at a time that I felt comfortable. A couple of months ago, I tried them for the first time since I was 12 and I finally understood why people love them so much.As of right now, I’m not exclusive to any one of them. I use both for different reasons and I’ll tell you.

Pads – I have worn pads the longest and I love it sometimes and hate it sometime. One thing I like about pads is that I can be wear it longer than a tampon. I normally time how long I wear it. So, if I am having a light flow, I try to change it every 5 hours and if its heavy, 4 hours. However, if I have to change it earlier, I would know to do that because I can see it and still wear it. With a tampon, you only take it out with the intention of throwing it away. Also, I can always depend on pads. I can wear it at any time – whether my flow is heavy or light.

Tampons – Now, I only just started wearing tampons but I enjoy it most times. Unlike before, it does not make me uncomfortable when I wear it anymore and it makes me feel comfortable wearing any type of underwear. There is also a freedom that comes with it. You can do more with a tampon on than a pad. I feel cleaner with it most times because the fact that I don’t see anything just makes me feel like I am not walking with a big sign on my head. However, I can’t seem to wear it when I am having heavy flow, maybe I have been using the wrong ones, I don’t know. So, I can’t always depend on them as I would like. Also, the change times are shorter. I change them every 2-3 hours.

Now…which one do I prefer?

I do not prefer one or the other. I like them for different reasons and I use them at different times. I use Pads when I am having a heavy flow and I use tampons when they are not as heavy.

As women, we have to do whatever feels right for our bodies and so, this is not me giving advice but just sparking a conversation about this natural thing that happens to us. So, I do want to hear your opinion. Vote on the poll below on which you prefer and leave your comments on this post.