20s – Dolly Writes

So, on Saturday, while I was in the Uber on my way to work (Yes, I work on Saturdays too, FML…), I started listening to Sza’s ‘Twenty Somethings’. I have listened to this song many times but I never really heard it until that day and I related with it on a completely different level.

I mean, I have to tell you that my 20s have been a whole different ball game. It has to be. It is that time in your life when you are definitely not a child anymore but you cannot necessarily call yourself an experienced adult because you are still trying to navigate adulthood and all that comes with it. It’s that period where you are introduced to life on a whole new scale.

For me, my 20s have been such an interesting journey and I am just 2 years in. I have seen myself evolve from the person that I used to be and the ways that I used to think. There are some shows that I watch now, like Insecure and Atlanta where, I can totally relate to the characters on those shows. I see myself making the same kind of mistakes they make; battling the same kind of decisions that they do about work, love, sex, life.

Not only that but my friends are in their 20s as well. The conversations that we have has changed. We spend our time talking about those same topics – work, love, sex, life – and also arguing about things going on in the news or on social media.

We also talk about our futures and while some of us have our journeys mapped out, not all of us (like me), seems to have any ideas how to go about it. That can be frustrating sometimes because you feel like you are supposed to have it all together but then, you don’t but the plan is to always take it one step at a time.

We also find ourselves confronted with new realities like the realities of marriage and children and we ask ourselves how we got to this point. Lol.

We drink lots of alcohol and we find time to hang out and we talk and when we do, we analyse and joke about the things that young adults talk about. And I love it.

I think that the freedom you feel in your 20s is unlike any other but its good because you get to enjoy that time for yourself and put your life together for when you are ready to take on bigger, bolder responsibilities.

I will miss it when it’s over but I am enjoying it now and taking it all in while learning to be the best version of myself.

I am entering a brand new chapter in my life. Actually, scratch that. I am in a new chapter in my life. I’m in it whether I like it or not. There are so many changes taking place in my life at the moment and I feel overwhelmed.

I believe that change is necessary but I am a hoarder of sentiments and feelings and so, it is always hard for me to leave a previous chapter because that chapter is familiar to me. With entering a new phase, I always get nervous and scared of what it might bring.

The one change that I am going to focus on today is my new single life. I haven’t been single since I was 17 years old and I just got out of my first ‘for real, for real’ relationship. You know, when I was in secondary school, I dated about two people but it was definitely nothing like this. This relationship was my first taste of an actual relationship — we spent a lot of time together, we did a lot of things together, we laughed, we argued, there were horrible moments and there were great moments.

However, that relationship had to end and at first, it was hard to deal with it but eventually, I got over it and it was a great and vey necessary decision to make. I feel like I am breathing a new kind of air. I am as excited as I am nervous because this is uncharted territory for me.

I feel like being single in your 20s is very different from being single in your teens. So, I am trying to figure out the ropes. The most important thing to me is to figure myself out. I have a lot of maturing to do and I want to lay a good foundation in my professional life. At the moment, my heart can only handle me. I don’t have it in me to fall for someone else or give my heart to someone else. It is too much energy for me to handle right now.

So, in trying to figure out this new singledom, I am just going to ensure that I look out for myself and look out for my own happiness because no one is going to do that for me.

Photo: Middle Market Growth

Tag: 20s

Twenty-Somethings

Uncharted Territory