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Journey of a growing woman

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My New Podcast: Road to 30

Anyone that knows me knows that I like to talk. Lol. If you allow me, I will talk your ear off. As a matter of fact, if I meet you for the first time and I just keep on talking, take it as a compliment because it means that I like you.

I have always been interested in this area of media. The summer before I entered university, I got the opportunity to get some work experience at a radio station which was such a wonderful time for me. I had actually shared a part of my experience there on this blog. You can check it out here. So, basically this was always something that I always wanted to do.

So, since I wasn’t able to get a job working at a radio station, I wanted to take matters into my own hands by starting a podcast. I even recorded an episode and everything but fear crippled me. I just couldn’t hack it.

Then, in walked my friend, Isaac. I have known Isaac for just about a decade. I had first met him when I went along with my secondary school for some competition at his secondary school. Then, he mentioned to me that he was my very good friend, Millicent’s cousin and the rest is history. Over the years, we communicated on and off. Then, earlier this year, Millicent told me that Isaac wanted to start a podcast. And honestly, the thought crossed my mind about doing it with him but then I shut it down because I felt we were moving in two different directions.

However, a few days later, he messaged me and asked me if I was interested in starting one with him and the more I thought about it, the more sense it made to me. I felt it would be great to have a partner as opposed to doing it alone. Everything seemed to work out so well because he lives very close to me and so, meeting up was no problem at all.

Our first meeting went very well and we communicated so well. We realised that we wanted to create a show that showcased all the joys and excitements of being in our 20s and we knew that there are tons of people who would be able to relate. It took us a few months to get it all together but on April 28th, 2019, we released our very first episode.

We have gotten such great feedback from it and we are super excited to keep going and creating content. So, please, I would appreciate if you guys support our podcast by listening, subscribing and commenting. I would share the Soundcloud recordings below and I will also provide the iTunes and Spotify links for those that would prefer those avenues.

Episode 1: Is adulting a scam?

On this episode we talk about the journey of adulting and if it is everything that we thought it would be. Take a listen below:

 

Episode 2: Losing Friendships

As we get older, we notice that our circles get smaller. We discuss our experiences of some of the friendships that have fallen on the way side as we have gotten older.

Unfortunately, I am having trouble sharing the last one on this post but if you head to here, you will be directed to all the platforms that our podcast is on for your choosing. Also, please follow us on our social media platforms

Instagram & Twitter: @roadto30podcast

I love you guys. Thanks for sticking with me and forgive my shameless plugging. Lol.

 

 

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I am through with the dating game.

What is it about me that says ‘ready to be played?’ 

I spent the last week being completely depressed. I slept a lot. I cried a lot and I thought a lot. One could say it was due to PMS or one could say it was due to the fact that I got approached by yet another dude who likes me enough to want to have sex with me but not enough to actually date me. Or it could be both, who knows? Crazier things have happened eh?

As you may know, I am a romantic. I am corny. I am sappy. I believe that love is one of the most meaningful things in this world but lately, I’ve started to doubt that. I mean, I still think it is but maybe just not for me. I am at my wit’s end when it comes to this dating game and at this point, I just want to simply step out of it.

I feel exhausted and worn out. Maybe it’s the PMS but I spent the last week trying to figure out what was wrong with me. What is it about me that says ‘ready to be played?’

In the last few years, I have grown to be more confident in the woman that I am but this last week showed me that I still have a long way to go. But as for this dating game, I feel done. I feel through.

And it sucks more because I have loved but haven’t ever felt that love back. So, I don’t even know what it means to be in a relationship with a person who thinks you’re the best thing since sliced bread. And I worry sometimes that I wouldn’t get that.

This is not post asking for sympathy. This is just a post that mirrors what I am going through in my life right now. And I want to know if I have sisters or brothers out there who feel the way I do. But, as of right now, I’m done.

I can’t keep doing this. It’s not even fun anymore.

22 So Far: God, Career & Dating in Lagos

So, I have been 22 for just about two months now and I have to tell you, this has to be one of my most pivotal years ever. I am exploring so many new parts of myself and my environment and it is just more than I expected it to be but I am enjoying it and excited to see what each new day brings. So, I wanted to take you guys on a journey on the different aspects of my life since I turned 22.

SPIRITUALITY

Of course, this is the most important thing. I am still not where I hope to be when it comes to God but I have realised something. I find myself leaning more on God than I have ever done in the past. I have found that one way in which he communicates with me is through my intuition so whenever I have any doubts about something or I am confused about the next step to take, I say a little prayer and check to see how my spirit feels about it. This is something that I am really appreciative of because I know that I need God more than anything else I could ever hope for in this life or the one after. As I mentioned, I am still not where I want to be but I am trying, God willing.

 

CAREER

I believe I mentioned in an earlier post that I am currently doing my NYSC, which ofor those who are not aware, means National Youth Service Corps, which is the national service that Nigerian graduates partake in for a year. So, at the moment, I am currently serving in Punch Newspapers which is such a full circle moment for me. One of the very first newspapers I ever read was Punch. In fact, I used to read Saturday Punch and Sunday Punch more than any other paper because they had stories and they were just more my speed. So, it is just so amazing that I get to work and write for Sunday Punch. God is such a comedian and I love it. It can be stressful and to be honest, working in a Nigerian office, – especially after experiencing working in the UK – takes some getting used to but I am taking it all in stride and doing my best to keep working and just being the very best I can.

 

DATING

So, dating in Lagos has been so interesting to me. Lol. I was in a relationship for about 3 years. So, this was like from when I was 17 to 20 years old. It took a while to get over that relationship because that was my first serious committed relationship. I mean, I saw myself getting married to this guy and having all his babies but that did not work out and I really really lost myself. So, my experience of early getting back into the dating scene has been in Lagos. I mean, I did a little bit of it in the UK but now, it is different because I tend to be out of the house more than I ever really have. I am still just at the entry of dating but so far, it has been interesting meeting and talking to people. It can be scary though because I have noticed that people tend to be really dishonest about themselves in this town so, you never really know if someone is being genuine with you. It is really about being careful and I am trying to do that while having fun.

 

ME

I have been so good. I think, in the last couple of months, I have somehow – without even realising – become more confident and happy and just better than I used to be. A friend of mine told me that I am ‘glowing in the chaos’ I truly believe I have God to thank for that. I have to say all glory really belongs to God because He got me out of a really bad rut and I am just generally happy and accepting of things. I try not to stress about things I do not have much control over and just keep it pushing. Mind you, I do not always succeed but I am putting in so much effort into just being happy, honest and free.

 

So, how am I finding 22? 22 has been good to me so far. I do not have much to complain about and a lot to be grateful for. I just hope and pray that this year keeps on coming with the most pleasant surprises, God willing. I cannot wait.